Getting unstuck The myth of work-life balance

Getting unstuck The myth of work-life balanceGetting unstuck The myth of work-life balanceHave you ever felt like you were in a rut or experiencing a particularly low point in your life? Its times like these when we feel down, hopeless and stuck. This can run the spectrum of significance, such as being unfulfilled at work to grieving the death of a family member or friend, but the symptoms are the same. We become disengaged and cannot fully focus or show up with our best selves. In fact, women are more dissatisfied with their careers than their male counterparts.According to a new report by the Conference Board, a New York-based nonprofit research group, 53.7% of women are unsatisfied - thats over half of all working women The key to getting unstuck is self-care, even when that feels like your lowest priority and the last thing you have time for. But really, self-care is the only way to move forward again.This type of stuck is a fasson of grieving and too often, we try to muscle our way through it instead of moving gracefully beyond it. We try to busy ourselves, self-medicate or avoid the flood of feelings accompanying the situation. Most of us havent been taught how to grieve, and because we are so uncomfortable with the pain we cant sit with it and be patient with the process. It takes time and requires gentle progress toward doing what it takes to feel better one day and sometimes one moment at a time.The good news is, you cant think your way toward better acting, but you can act your way toward better thinking. When youre ready for progress, use the practices below to move forward again. In the process, youll redefine success and what it means to be your best self.ExerciseMany of us fail on this one because we set expectations that are too high for ourselves. When you are coming out of a low period, you need to consistently have the experience of succeeding. To accomplish this, you must lower the bar and set a goal that is attainable given the circumstance s. For example, you might commit to some form of self-care once a week once you are consistent and making progress while gaining energy, only then will you raise your goal to twice a week. If at any point the self-care causes stress, its no longer self-care. Self-care also includes sleep. Often we neglect sleep as a key ingredient to health. At times like this, you may need more than your usual amount to sustain your energy for the long term.Try it Commit to some form of self-care once a week. This could be 30 minutes of exercise, sleeping seven hours in a night or spending quality time with a friend. Youll departure to see the positive impact of these practices and be motivated to do them more often.GratitudeRemembering there are things to be grateful for, even in the darkest of times, helps keep us focused on the positive and moving forward. Keep a gratitude journal and list at least ten things you are grateful for every night before going to bed. This one intentional practice is a game changer for how you approach each new day. Some days the weather may be all youre grateful for and you can detail ten aspects of that at the bare minimum.Try it The Doubler- this is an exercise developed by Shawn Achor that helps increase gratitude and positive thinking. Every night write down the most meaningful thing that happened to you that day. Then, write down three details about that thing. Causing your brain to recall details has the doubling gratitude effect that gives the practice its name. Do it every day for two weeks- you will notice a differenceHealthy dietWhen you begin to treat food as fuel as opposed to a drug, you become more mindful of what you put in your mouth. When youre down, you may not even be conscious of this. Fueling yourself with good foods helps your body stay healthy and your mind stay sharp. Make a commitment to nourish yourself the way you would nourish your children. Time is often a barrier for busy people, but there are many services like O rigins, Blue Apron and Instacart that can help minimize the effort shopping and cooking takes. There are healthy options around being intentional means youll slow down to ensure youre taking care of your body.Try it Youd be amazed how cutting just one thing out of your diet affects your body. Try cutting out sugar just two days a week. As I shared above, lowering the bar will get you started and help you be consistent with the practice. Or, commit to packing a lunch twice a week. Youll save money and most likely choose a healthier option. Planning and dedication will make your practices happen successfully.Support networkSurround yourself with positive people and inspirational messaging. This can be from family, friends and non-human sources like pets, social media, and other reading materials. You need to evaluate how your interactions make you feel do they give you energy or drain your energy? Do you feel forwarded or mired as a result of the interaction? Filter out anything that lessens your energy, including relationships. Take a break from social media or limit the amount of time you spend online daily. When youre stuck, gravitate to what is easily moving you forward. Once youre in a better place mentally, physically and emotionally, you will be able to change your thinking.Try it Take an inventory of the people in your life and how they make you feel. Do you leave interactions with them feeling happy and energized or drained and negative? behauptung reactions are important to pay attention to. Every person has a season in our lives, and at some point, it may be time for your relationship to end. If you dont leave feeling better than you did prior to seeing someone, spend less time with them.Getting unstuck is a process that takes time. Be patient and kind to yourself, and know that even small progress is a success. In addition to the practices outlined above, find other ways to recognize you are winning. When you dont believe you have the time to put you rself first, remember that taking care of yourself is like putting on your oxygen mask before helping others on the plane. If youre not around, you cant help anyone elseMore than just a bestselling author, Sue Hawkes is a keynote speaker, Certified EOS Implementer, Certified Business Coach, WPO Chapter Chair, award-winning and globally recognized seminar leader, and an entrepreneur. She is CEO and Founder ofYESS Your Extraordinary Success Strategies, and brings over 25 years of experience to her clients. Hawkes is also a wife, mom of three, and a bulldog owner. Her new book,Chasing Perfectionis now available for purchase.